I've already had a reputable suspension shop revalve and respring the fork (really made a hell of a difference

I have a 4.9 spring at this point and they recommend going 4.8 or even 4.6 for where I ride but I really can't afford doing the rear now. (spring is 110 bux and the revalve is 200)
So here is my question for the suspension gurus:
my main complain about it is the braking bump and accelerating bumps: they beat me to death to the point I have to really hang on for dear life

The wheel seems to be bouncing up and down and not track at all, get a lot of wheel spin (I'm convinced that's why I destroyed a brand new michelin S12 in 2 rides

It seems ok on jumps, i don't bottom out anywhere, so I think the low speed compression and rebound is ok.
My shock is apart for now since I blew the seal on the last ride and I was thinking about trying something to make it more rideable. (riding on a blown shock is like having a pogo stick for a shock

Anyway here is my shim stack:
nut
thick washer
20.95
22.95
23.95
21.95 x 2
23.98
22.93
23.98
25.95
20.95
23.95
25.95
27.95
29.98
33.95 x 2
22.88
33.95 x 4
valve (race tech gold valve)
37.95 x 10
25.89
37.95 x2
22.95
37.95
33.95
29.95
27.95
25.95
23.95
17.95
Can anyone help me identify what does what and tell me what part of the circuit is the high speed damping?
I was thinking about removing some shims affecting that stack and also use a bit less psi in the shock, instead of the 170 I usually run I'd try 140 or 150.
thx
wilf
edit:
my reasoning behind the lower N2 psi is it would allow the oil to flow faster/earlier opening the high speed circuit since the resistance against the bladder would be less.
I think i'd need to open up the HS rebound to compensate for the lower psi since it won't have much strength to push back the oil.
I'm guessing this would impact the low speed damping too but hopefully would be manageable by increasing the compression (on full soft now)
What do you all think?
PS: if you know of a good website that explains how everything works I'd really appreciate it if you could post the link

